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doorgunnerjgs

Shared on Fri, 05/15/2009 - 11:20

I wanted to thank all those who have expressed their concern and prayers for me recently. I truly appreciate them all.

There were two people in particular whose comments I wanted to address. I hope they won't be embarassed or hurt in any way about what I'm about to write.

doodirock says: DG, you sir are a fantastic human being. Even through all this your writing shows an up beat side and general understanding of what matters in life. I only hope I have half the courage that you do when Im 66. Keep hanging in there.

doodirock says: again, you are my hero.

DEEP_NNN says:
Good luck in the days ahead. I'm such a wimp. I don't think I could handle all the same kind of stress.

I don't view myself as a "hero" or "fantastic human being" or even a "non-wimp". My attitude comes more from observing others and KNOWING that my life is not so bad as others.

For example, my brother-in-law died of cancer at the end of January. He was only 39 years old and died from Melanoma. He had lost his brother to the same disease only 3 months before. Also, of the 2,709,918 Americans who served in Vietnam, less than 850,000 (32%) are estimated to be alive today, with the youngest American Vietnam veteran's age approximated to be 54 years old. My nephew's son, Zachary, had to have brain surgery at the ripe old age of 3 for Chiari Malformation.

I am 66 years old, have had full and interesting life with much love associated with it. There were several times when I could have died and would not have experienced so much, known so much, or met so many wonderful people, including you folks here at 2old2play.

But when I compare my illness and trials to someone like JollyRoger, my life seems tame and easy to cope with in comparison. Jolly has not blogged recently, but if you want to admire someone for courage and strength, then he and his family are the ones to look to.

In his twitter page, twitter.com/J0llyRoger and through conversations and communications with others, it is found that in addition to the pain and mental pressures of dealing with their daughter, Megan, who has an incurable mitochondrial disease, they are now dealing with their middle child Ian's crippling Guillain-Barré Syndrome.

So my apparent strength and calmness is a direct consequence of observing true strength and faith evidenced by others. Thank you for your support and kindness but remember even more, those whose lives are truly challenged by trials and tribulations that far surpass mine.

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Submitted by DaRedneck on Sat, 05/23/2009 - 19:19
Just as you look at the trials and tribulations of others and find strength and are humbled by their lives, courage and faith, so do we look at you and find these same things for ourselves. I agree with you in regards to Jolly but you should know you are an inspiration to us as well.
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Submitted by opposer1 on Sun, 05/24/2009 - 08:49
As others have said here, you are an inspiration to us all for the ability to handle what you are going through. In no way are we comparing you to what JollyRoger and his family are going through. You and JollyRoger are both going through tough times that none of us cen even imagine ourselves going through. Best wishes and prayers to you.
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Submitted by hilskie on Fri, 05/15/2009 - 11:28
DG...you can view yourself however you want...the things people feel about you doesn't diminish what others go through in the least. For me...I look around and see all these amazing examples...and you are one of these amazing examples. What you call an attitude from "observing others" is a talent that some don't have. It takes a different kind of person to REALLY learn from the lives of those around them! Everyone has as much as they can handle in their sphere of existence. I feel like DEEP as well...I am a wimp when it comes to some things...I am glad my trials are mine, because I don't think I could handle more. Take care...stay strong...we're here for ya!
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Submitted by TDrag27 on Fri, 05/15/2009 - 12:33
I missed your last few blogs DG - The line that struck me was when you said you've been "half-heartedly fighting cancer" for 14 years. There's nothing half-hearted about a battle like this and then to inspire everyone else that reads your blog to boot!. Keep your chin up. I hope your family and health turn for the better.
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Submitted by J-Cat on Fri, 05/15/2009 - 12:34
Hilskie... that is a beautiful sentiment. I have to agree: Door, what you brush off as simplicity (observing people: growing and learning from that experience) is something that someof us don't ever understand. I am still trying to figure it all out. Maybe when I'm 90 or something it will fall into place... Point being: what you are writing here is something that we should all learn from, and for that I thank you.
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Submitted by mrsleestak on Fri, 05/15/2009 - 12:53
You are one of the true gentleman on this site and I always wish you well. I thank you for the example you set for the rest of us all as well as your service to our country. Empathy is a trait that I fear is lacking in many people today.
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Submitted by TheDastard on Fri, 05/15/2009 - 12:58
Courage is fear that said it's prayers. You do what you need to do to take care of yourself, your family and your friends. That is the definition of the type of person I respect, and you have mine.
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Submitted by happ on Fri, 05/15/2009 - 13:06
Fantastic post. You are are both an inspiration to all of us. Our thoughts are with you and your family.
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Submitted by Devonsangel on Fri, 05/15/2009 - 15:58
The fact that you want to divert attention from yourself to others gives testament to your character. Although you do not view yourself as a hero, you give inspiration for others to look at things in a different light. You are my hero for the work you have done in the military and the fight you continue with the grace of someone I am proud to have met. Thank you.
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Submitted by doorgunnerjgs on Wed, 05/27/2009 - 22:20
Thanks for all the kind words, I really appreciate them and hope that I can live up to them in the future.

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