Agonizing_Gas
Shared on Wed, 05/03/2006 - 01:51Im headed to E3 next week for what will likely be my 1st and last time. Im stoked to be headed to L.A. to check out the Wii, the PS3 (if they have anything playable on it) and snoop around Microsofts booth in hopes of a new video or demo from Bungie. Im excited as Ill get to see some folks from the site as well as a friend of mine from high school. Itll be my first real vacation in a few years, and Ill spend the majority of it drooling over new games and gadgets. Im a geek. Such a geek. Isll be taking both my digital camera and my digital camcorder. Hope to be able to share what I see. Can you say booth babe? ;)
Itll also be good to get out of town since things at the Ponderosa arent exactly peachy. A little back story: I met my wife through an online dating site (which was wierd to me, but I hear it is becoming more and more common) and we hit it off immediately. We imd all the time, then started calling one another. After a few months, we met in person. Chemistry was there. We hung out for a week and had a blast. A month later, she came out to visit again and we drove across several states on a road trip to my home town. The following month I flew out to met her family and help her move. Pretty quick, but it was right for both of us and we knew it.
For the next year we lived in a crappy 900 square foot apartment paying way too much in rent. But we were both incredibly happy. Fairy tale come true. A year after she moved out to be with me, we were married. Best day of my life, quite easily. Family, friends, and a good woman. A promise of happiness and love awaited us. A couple days later (or was it the next day? I cant recall anymore but it was literally a day or two after getting married) we moved back to her home town so that we could afford to buy a house and settle down. A couple months later, we moved into our house. And we were set. (okay, so its a little more than just a little back story)
But what we ended up being set for was failure. I was 1800+ miles away from friends and family. I had the slow awakening to the fact that Ill never get to do all the things that I thought I would. I had wanted to move back home (which is Montana), and my wife had no interest or intention of relocating. I understood why. She had everything in her life that she missed while she was away. To her, everything was complete. I wont get into details but to say that we grew apart over the next twenty-three months. She found her old social life and friends, I found work, WoW and XBL. It was a slow, comfortable slide into being roommates. We both knew that things werent going the right direction, but neither of us tried to stop it either. A couple days after my 30th birthday she tells me that she wants to separate. Knowing full well that our communication and the lack of making one another a priority were the demise of our relationship, I suggested that moving out would only help us avoid the issues instead of fixing them. I urged for counseling, moving out of state or whatever it took to get what we had back.
No marriage counseling. No relationship books. No U-haul. Shes just done. Its way after the train has derailed, and theres nothing to do but pick up the pieces and move on. So in the next month or so Ill be relocating back home. Ill be looking for a place to live and a job. Soon to be single again.
The part that bothers me the most is my failure as a husband. I have parents that got divorced and I swore that Id never get a divorce. I was going to get married once. I didnt want to follow in their footsteps. Its sad that we lost the happiness we once shared. Its sad that we let things go without trying to fix them. But in the end its probably for the best. How do you go back to Eden? Both parties have to want to get back there to make it work. I can only hope that we both find happiness later in life. Were also lucky that we dont have children to explain our mess to.
Im looking forward to being back home. Looking forward to being around friends and family again. Looking forward to having everything that my wife has had for the past two years. Mostly, Im looking forward to not having to worry anymore.
My granny, btw, is doing as well as can be expected. Guess she wasnt quite ready to meet her maker or see her husband again. You go Granny.
Itll also be good to get out of town since things at the Ponderosa arent exactly peachy. A little back story: I met my wife through an online dating site (which was wierd to me, but I hear it is becoming more and more common) and we hit it off immediately. We imd all the time, then started calling one another. After a few months, we met in person. Chemistry was there. We hung out for a week and had a blast. A month later, she came out to visit again and we drove across several states on a road trip to my home town. The following month I flew out to met her family and help her move. Pretty quick, but it was right for both of us and we knew it.
For the next year we lived in a crappy 900 square foot apartment paying way too much in rent. But we were both incredibly happy. Fairy tale come true. A year after she moved out to be with me, we were married. Best day of my life, quite easily. Family, friends, and a good woman. A promise of happiness and love awaited us. A couple days later (or was it the next day? I cant recall anymore but it was literally a day or two after getting married) we moved back to her home town so that we could afford to buy a house and settle down. A couple months later, we moved into our house. And we were set. (okay, so its a little more than just a little back story)
But what we ended up being set for was failure. I was 1800+ miles away from friends and family. I had the slow awakening to the fact that Ill never get to do all the things that I thought I would. I had wanted to move back home (which is Montana), and my wife had no interest or intention of relocating. I understood why. She had everything in her life that she missed while she was away. To her, everything was complete. I wont get into details but to say that we grew apart over the next twenty-three months. She found her old social life and friends, I found work, WoW and XBL. It was a slow, comfortable slide into being roommates. We both knew that things werent going the right direction, but neither of us tried to stop it either. A couple days after my 30th birthday she tells me that she wants to separate. Knowing full well that our communication and the lack of making one another a priority were the demise of our relationship, I suggested that moving out would only help us avoid the issues instead of fixing them. I urged for counseling, moving out of state or whatever it took to get what we had back.
No marriage counseling. No relationship books. No U-haul. Shes just done. Its way after the train has derailed, and theres nothing to do but pick up the pieces and move on. So in the next month or so Ill be relocating back home. Ill be looking for a place to live and a job. Soon to be single again.
The part that bothers me the most is my failure as a husband. I have parents that got divorced and I swore that Id never get a divorce. I was going to get married once. I didnt want to follow in their footsteps. Its sad that we lost the happiness we once shared. Its sad that we let things go without trying to fix them. But in the end its probably for the best. How do you go back to Eden? Both parties have to want to get back there to make it work. I can only hope that we both find happiness later in life. Were also lucky that we dont have children to explain our mess to.
Im looking forward to being back home. Looking forward to being around friends and family again. Looking forward to having everything that my wife has had for the past two years. Mostly, Im looking forward to not having to worry anymore.
My granny, btw, is doing as well as can be expected. Guess she wasnt quite ready to meet her maker or see her husband again. You go Granny.
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