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Not Acceptable Behavior

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Shared on Tue, 08/18/2009 - 08:56

I have to say I'm upset after reading the responses to a fellow member's recent blog.

I don't care how you feel about her, or how much you disagree with her opinions, or whatever. What kind of man attacks a woman like this, for no reason?! Do tell. I'm all ears.

I think it's time that the powers that be stand behind something here at 2O2P. Here it is, real simple. You don't attack, bully, verbally abuse, mistreat women at 2O2P for any reason. Most of the men I know on this site would agree with that. For those who think it's OK to treat people like this, I would suggest you keep it to yourself, or move on.

People are going to say things here that will not sit right with everyone, but that is never a good reason to bash them. What's your goal? To teach them the "right way" of using the internet while at work? If you need to show how important you are, do it someplace else.

Mistreatment is not wanted, or accepted by any 2O2P female member....come to think of it, no one wants it!

 

 

Now, if you'll excuse me, but do the right thing . . .

Comments

the_FREELANCER's picture
Submitted by the_FREELANCER on Tue, 08/18/2009 - 15:45
Not sure what everyone's talking about...I'm so confused. Great post, just have her hang out with us, we'll take care of her.
wilderz's picture
Submitted by wilderz on Tue, 08/18/2009 - 16:41
For the record, I did not mistreat or verbally abuse anyone. I stated facts, plain and simple. I thought it was laughable that someone that was complaining so much about their work, faked a family emergency to go to a LAN party. I think instead of complaining she would be thankful to have a job. Never mind the fact that probably someone had to cover her shift. I didn't say it to be mean. Again I was simply stating fact.
BlowMonkey's picture
Submitted by BlowMonkey on Tue, 08/18/2009 - 09:06
I have no idea what this is about - but I say rise up sister friend!
XValue's picture
Submitted by XValue on Tue, 08/18/2009 - 09:16
I'm sure I will be on your side, but who are we talking about?
Caesar's picture
Submitted by Caesar on Tue, 08/18/2009 - 09:25
i agree with you, now who needs a lesson in mannor's?
Biznass's picture
Submitted by Biznass on Tue, 08/18/2009 - 09:35
I don't know what you're talkin' bout Willis. Now hush up and help me over this wall.
corbin_dallas's picture
Submitted by corbin_dallas on Tue, 08/18/2009 - 09:37
Time for the Drama llama. Look, people are assholes but unfortunately are entitled to their opinions. They shouldn't necessarily always express those opinoins but when you blog something for all to see the assholes seem to ooze from the woodwork. I don't condone the ignorant comments made on Pearly's blog but attacking their opnions isn't going to change their ignorance. IF nothing else they owe Pearly an apology for hijacking her rant. But they are still entitled to an opinion(unfortunately)
williamadamsesq's picture
Submitted by williamadamsesq on Tue, 08/18/2009 - 09:37
I'm not sure what we're talking about, either, but I have your back as always. Frying pan ready to rock and roll! PS We're not sticking up for Finns, are we? Cause Blowmonkey and I would have to think about that.
Caesar's picture
Submitted by Caesar on Tue, 08/18/2009 - 09:51
corbin, ive met pearly 2 times at last yrs lan and this yrs, and i consider a good friend. regardless of her rant pearly is one of the nicest people ive met on the site. for that person to be a dbag in her blog to her is just not right, unless you actually follow her blog and know the reason behind why she did what she did to go to the lan then they should keep there mouth shut, the lan isnt just some gaming convention, its were we get to form tighter REAL friendships. in fact this yr there was way more mingling and getting to know each other and just hanging out then gaming. i understand people can have there opinions, but they should definitly think before they post. the one guy should know better as he has been around here a long time and should know better.
corbin_dallas's picture
Submitted by corbin_dallas on Tue, 08/18/2009 - 10:04
C..I wasn't saying what they said was proper nor am I blaming Pearly for anything, it's her blog..she can put anything in it she wished but she should know that some people who read it will be DBAGS and leave shitty comments. I think she should chalk it up as an experience and move on. Leaving the site because of some uninformed reckless comments is not the right move. I'm sorry that someone had to be a fucktard but the world is full of them and we all have to deal with them at one point or another
char's picture
Submitted by char on Tue, 08/18/2009 - 10:18
It's good to know my backs covered and I knew it would be. This was about a clan member in the ladies clan. You know I'm one to stay out of drama. I hate it. This one was out of line. I stick up for my clan and it's members. Unless I don't like you....lol kidding...lol There is no good reason to hurt someone here. However you feel, attacking a person here and making them upset is just uncalled for. Many people are going through rough times and they don't always say it. People need to think before they type. You can hurt someone really bad with words without knowing what they're dealing with on a day to day. All I ask is members to think before they say hurtful things to someone here. William....lmao! I've got that pan somewhere!
Caesar's picture
Submitted by Caesar on Tue, 08/18/2009 - 10:18
i agree corbin
XValue's picture
Submitted by XValue on Tue, 08/18/2009 - 11:26
Now i know what we're talking about......I don't agree with you, Char - no one should get treated like that. Why should ladies get all the support. I feel un-loved. :( I'm gonna go rant on my blog.
char's picture
Submitted by char on Tue, 08/18/2009 - 11:53
X, don't you worry. I'll both mistreat you and defend your honor always.....heh. So, put that smile back on. but you still need to blog. it's good for your soul = ) Biz, but it's more fun watching you try = )
MikeTheKnife's picture
Submitted by MikeTheKnife on Tue, 08/18/2009 - 11:57
Why do you specify 'female' blogs as immune to criticism? I don't like that, sorry if it bugs you. Also--was this deemed a ToS violation? If not--people are entitled to their opinion, just as you are entitled to disagree with and be angry about that opinion.
BasBleu's picture
Submitted by BasBleu on Tue, 08/18/2009 - 12:05
You are a gentlewoman and a fine judge of character... But for me, it has nothing to do with her being female...and everything to do with manners and a standard of acceptable behavior.
Raider30's picture
Submitted by Raider30 on Tue, 08/18/2009 - 12:15
"What kind of man attacks a woman like this," and "You don't attack, bully, verbally abuse, mistreat women at 2O2P for any reason. " Wtf? Talk about blowing something out of proportion. 2 additional blogs dedicated to it plus at least 3 dozen comments. I disagree with with Wilderz wrote on Pearly's blog, but seriously people lets get a little perspective here. Nothing in what Wilderz wrote had anything to do with Pearly being female. Zero. The reality is she posted something online, in a forum where people are allowed to comment and someone commented. Was it the nicest thing to say - no. Was it necessary to say - no. Just because she is a well thought of member of this site, and by most accounts a sweet person, doesn't, and shouldn't, give her a free pass from comments - good or bad. So again I ask wtf? Are men now not allowed to comment/criticize women's simply because they are women?
Jennifer's picture
Submitted by Jennifer on Tue, 08/18/2009 - 12:28
Pulling the woman card isn't the best thing to do imo. I feel bad for pearly I know she is sensitive and kind these things bother her but I don't think the woman thing should be an issue. I personally think people shouldn't be dicks if you are man or a woman it is going to happen on the internet when you put yourself out there but I don't have to agree with it. I also don't think it should be made a larger issue than it is by bringing in gender.
char's picture
Submitted by char on Tue, 08/18/2009 - 12:30
Oh I agree, BasBleu. I feel the same about this kind of treatment to men, women, children, animals…for that matter. I just feel a man should always be a gentleman. It’s a flaw I have. I would love it if the world wasn’t so hell bent on destroying one another. I always feel you can tell a person by how he/she treats the people around them. I’m always shocked how and what people say to bring someone down. This one just hit me. I try to pick and choose my battles, but this one was something that I had a real problem with. People think by saying it’s “their opinion,” it gives them the right to be abusive. It’s not. I could have just stayed out of it, but sometimes you have to stand up even if it feels uncomfortable.
J-Cat's picture
Submitted by J-Cat on Tue, 08/18/2009 - 13:28
People can choose one of two paths: to make the burden greater for each other or lighter. Why some choose to make it greater I will never know. A few of TheCabal have mentioned receiving the same sort of abuse by the same members. That sucks. Look, it's tough to appreciate but the "wah wah, you whiner, get back to doing your job." is sorta paternalistic. It's the "I know more than you and I am going to teach you a lesson." attitude that sometimes makes women see red. It's interpretation. This shows one thing though... the Ladies of 202p are pretty close now. We support each other. We are growing closer. It's sometimes tough to be a woman in a male dominated past time and I know that by being closer, it makes it easier. Char: it takes guts to do what you did. thank you.

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