Cranefolder
Shared on Fri, 07/28/2006 - 15:27In just a few minutes my wife is going to drive me to the airport. I'm leaving town and won't be back until August 6th. I'm going to Pennsylvania to see family and then heading over to Chicago for the LAN. This seemed like a great idea a few months ago, but now it is starting to sink in that I won't see my wife for 9 days, and that sucks bigtime.
See, I was moving and changing jobs at the end of last year, and I spent basically 6 weeks apart from my wife, with just a few weekends together sprinkled in here and there to break it up. I was working in Birmingham, AL, and she was back in Charleston, SC working and trying to sell our house. We both got over here permanently on Jan. 6th and since then we haven't been separated too much. There have been a couple weekends where she went to visit her grandmother and I stayed home to work on the house, but those weren't too bad. Even so, I still felt that twinge of loneliness during those short times apart, probably because they reminded me of the misery I went through during the move. We have been married for more than 5 years, and after that amount of time I have to say that I really can't imagine life without her. Goddammit, if I had wanted to be alone, I wouldn't have bothered to get married in the first place.
I'm sure there are some of you out there reading this who have to be apart from your family as part of your job. Perhaps you travel a lot, or maybe you are in the military and stationed away from your family. You have my profound sympathies in that regard. I hate being apart from my wife and I just don't think I could do it for months on end. To top it off, I'm not much good on the phone, so it is hard for me to stay in touch with her that way. I just can't think of much to say beyond "I love you" and "I miss you".
I would take her with me on this trip, but since she started her new job several months after I did, she hasn't earned any vacation time yet. Plus, her department has a busy season that is in full swing right now and they are asking people to work overtime.
Did I also mention that I hate to fly? I haven't been on a plane in six years, because the last time I flew I left my fingerprints on the armrest. I know that it is safer than driving a car, but that doesn't seem to quell the irrational fear I have when I get on a plane. I have a Nintendo DS Lite this time though, and I am hoping that it serves to distract me during the flight. Advance Wars is a pretty absorbing game, so hopefully that will help. (Thanks to my buddy Raste for letting me borrow it.)
To recap: I hate to fly and I hate to be apart from my wife. So why am I getting on a plane and leaving her for 9 days? Well, there is my family reunion in Pennsylvania. It happens every year, and I can't always make it, but my grandmother from up there died a few months ago and I couldn't make it to her funeral. I feel that it is my duty to go, and I do love getting to see all my family members. We used to go up to grandmas farm and stay for 3 weeks in the summer and I feel really close to all my aunts, uncles and cousins that still live there. I need a vacation too. I haven't had a solid week of vacation since April of last year. Because of the move and switching jobs I took almost no time off over Thanksgiving and Christmas last year. And of course, I really want to go to the Chicago LAN. So it isn't exactly torture to go on this trip, but my fun will be darkened a bit because I have to leave my best friend at home. She will be working while I'm fishing, playing golf, and gaming. When I planned this trip all I was thinking about was the break from work, seeing family and friends and meeting people from 2old2play. Now all I can think about is getting on that plane and leaving my wife behind. That just sucks more than I can adequately put into words (although I have tried).
I don't think she ever reads any of the stuff I put up on this site, but baby, if you are out there reading this, I love you and I miss you already. I promise that when I get back from this trip that I won't do anything that separates us for a long time. My heart just can't take it.
See, I was moving and changing jobs at the end of last year, and I spent basically 6 weeks apart from my wife, with just a few weekends together sprinkled in here and there to break it up. I was working in Birmingham, AL, and she was back in Charleston, SC working and trying to sell our house. We both got over here permanently on Jan. 6th and since then we haven't been separated too much. There have been a couple weekends where she went to visit her grandmother and I stayed home to work on the house, but those weren't too bad. Even so, I still felt that twinge of loneliness during those short times apart, probably because they reminded me of the misery I went through during the move. We have been married for more than 5 years, and after that amount of time I have to say that I really can't imagine life without her. Goddammit, if I had wanted to be alone, I wouldn't have bothered to get married in the first place.
I'm sure there are some of you out there reading this who have to be apart from your family as part of your job. Perhaps you travel a lot, or maybe you are in the military and stationed away from your family. You have my profound sympathies in that regard. I hate being apart from my wife and I just don't think I could do it for months on end. To top it off, I'm not much good on the phone, so it is hard for me to stay in touch with her that way. I just can't think of much to say beyond "I love you" and "I miss you".
I would take her with me on this trip, but since she started her new job several months after I did, she hasn't earned any vacation time yet. Plus, her department has a busy season that is in full swing right now and they are asking people to work overtime.
Did I also mention that I hate to fly? I haven't been on a plane in six years, because the last time I flew I left my fingerprints on the armrest. I know that it is safer than driving a car, but that doesn't seem to quell the irrational fear I have when I get on a plane. I have a Nintendo DS Lite this time though, and I am hoping that it serves to distract me during the flight. Advance Wars is a pretty absorbing game, so hopefully that will help. (Thanks to my buddy Raste for letting me borrow it.)
To recap: I hate to fly and I hate to be apart from my wife. So why am I getting on a plane and leaving her for 9 days? Well, there is my family reunion in Pennsylvania. It happens every year, and I can't always make it, but my grandmother from up there died a few months ago and I couldn't make it to her funeral. I feel that it is my duty to go, and I do love getting to see all my family members. We used to go up to grandmas farm and stay for 3 weeks in the summer and I feel really close to all my aunts, uncles and cousins that still live there. I need a vacation too. I haven't had a solid week of vacation since April of last year. Because of the move and switching jobs I took almost no time off over Thanksgiving and Christmas last year. And of course, I really want to go to the Chicago LAN. So it isn't exactly torture to go on this trip, but my fun will be darkened a bit because I have to leave my best friend at home. She will be working while I'm fishing, playing golf, and gaming. When I planned this trip all I was thinking about was the break from work, seeing family and friends and meeting people from 2old2play. Now all I can think about is getting on that plane and leaving my wife behind. That just sucks more than I can adequately put into words (although I have tried).
I don't think she ever reads any of the stuff I put up on this site, but baby, if you are out there reading this, I love you and I miss you already. I promise that when I get back from this trip that I won't do anything that separates us for a long time. My heart just can't take it.
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