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I'm pregnant, I'm not an invalid

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Shared on Fri, 03/19/2010 - 16:40

LAdies and Gentlemen, if you know a pregnant woman, please don't assume that she can't do simple tasks. If she lifts and moves things, it's cause she can. Don't patronize her by giving her crap. I actually got my hand slapped cause I moved a fouton out of the way so I could get behind it. I am a strong girl... and foutons on hardwood are easily moved. Yet somehow... what? I am not supposed to carry on with real life due to my knock-upedness?

I imagine people with disabilities get PO'd over this kinda stuff. You know, people assuming that they can't do stuff, when they can.  We all know our own bodies and we know what we can and can't do.

Have you ever had people doubt your judgement with respect to your own body? Assumed that you couldn't do something when you know that you could?

With respect to gaming, there are many people who have disabilities, and I believe that there is a niche for accomodation. Simple example: Dragon Quest had the option to have all of the controls mapped so you could play one handed. You know what that means, huh, guys? Thats riiight.... gaming AND drinking coffee.

But in all seriousness, I loved being able to play one handed. I could.. game and drink coffee, hold the guidebook, whatever. I loved it so much I was sure that more games would do this. But no... I haven't found any. Now of course, an FPS will be harder to map to one hand... but an RPG may not be that hard. I am sure there are many ways of accomodating gamers with disabilities, and I wonder if devs see this market.

Any thoughts?

Comments

pearly_54's picture
Submitted by pearly_54 on Fri, 03/19/2010 - 17:00
Have you ever had someone give their seat up on a bus cuz you were female, old, or limping? All of the above one time. I was happy to sit, but felt a little weird. Am I really old and a gimp? That was just a twisted ankle, some time ago. All better now.
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Submitted by Bonecollektor on Fri, 03/19/2010 - 18:24
I'm all for the independent woman and all but, instead of downplaying what took place, see it as a sign of caring. Someone cared enough to notice your current situation and tried to make every moment a little more comfortable as best they can. I didn't want my wife doing much either. I'm guilty of it. But I also knew she had enough to worry about and the amount of stress that is put on a woman's body during this time is serious business. So I carried groceries, rubbed feet & matched her pound for pound during the pregnancy (that was fun btw). I'm not sure how far along you are but, don't be to harsh on anyone just yet. Later on down the road a simple act of kindness might be the difference between an easy night and a hormonal rage. :D just some friendly advice. take care.
LuxDevil67's picture
Submitted by LuxDevil67 on Fri, 03/19/2010 - 18:32
what are you doing typing?! you should be in bed!
Raider30's picture
Submitted by Raider30 on Sat, 03/20/2010 - 00:20
@ Bonecollektor - exactly right. Perhaps someone was just being nice. Its kind of a shame when a 'good deed' is taken as an insult. I'm one of those hold the door, grab the heavy bag, and get wet just outside the coverage of the umbrella kind of guys. It doesn't mean you can't open the door yourself, it just means someone was doing something nice for you(or for them - does it really matter?). Guys get weird around pregnant women, you get goofy about food, we get goofy about you. Deal with it. Accept it. Be thankful for it - it means someone cares. - Raider30
Fish66's picture
Submitted by Fish66 on Sat, 03/20/2010 - 04:43
@ Bonecollektor & Raider30 - I agree. My GF never opens a door around me, drives or carries things sick or well. (We haven't done the knocked up thing but that would certainly bump things up a notch or two) It's not because I don't think she can, (we aren't always together and things still get done), it's because I care. And she gets VERY appreciative ;) @ Bonecollektor - Dude, you touched her feet?
J-Cat's picture
Submitted by J-Cat on Sat, 03/20/2010 - 12:14
if it was a good deed that's fine... but I was actually berated for doing things that I know I could do. A "nono... let me do that for you" is one thing... a "slap... you shouldn't do that... THINN KOF THE CHILDREN" is quite another. but yeah..l. maybe I'm uptight :)
LadyisRed's picture
Submitted by LadyisRed on Tue, 03/23/2010 - 00:03
as someone who has been a gestating female four and a half times, I know exactly what you are talking about. I am VERY grateful for people who hold doors, bags, ect. I am NOT grateful for people who tell me what I can and cannot do lol. Pregnancy is hard because people feel that since you are pregnant they have the right to tell you their opinions and to scare you into doing what they think is best. Things that dont usually bother me whilst not pregnant, can very well send me off the deep end when I am pregnant simply because its often times the 100000000000th piece of unasked for advice for the day. So yeah, give up your seat or hold open a door and I might cry in gratitude. Tell me not to eat my subway sandwich or lay flat on my back and I will probably flip you off. Tell me that only crazy women dont get an epidural or that my midwife is going to kill my baby and I will probably rip you a new one and fill it with shards of glass. :D
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Submitted by Crimson_Fox on Tue, 03/23/2010 - 07:03
I have never berated anyone but I will always give up my seat or try to help help out if a lady looks like she needs it. I will also never go through a door before a lady but will instead hold it open for her to go through first. Might be old fashioned, I know but that's how I was brought up.

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