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Need Help: Toddlers and Birthdays

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Shared on Mon, 12/07/2009 - 20:53

Okay... so Erica is doing great... healthy, happy... all that good stuff. The thing is she doesn't really play with other kids yet. She has a great imagination (into pretend play like no one's business) and loves stories. She also has a terrific sense of humour: but she just doens't necessarily play with the other kiddos at daycare.  She's an introvert, like my man.

Now, here's the thing. Her birthday is coming up in the new year (she'll be 3). So.... should we invite a kid over for a party? Seems kinda silly when she really doesn't seem to love any of the kids at daycare. We may have a party with the in-laws.

Here's the other thing. Let's just say, for argument's sake, that Erica and a friend at daycare really got along. I don't know any of the kid's parents... how do you invite a stranger over? It's a daycare, most of the parents miss each other. We rarely get a chance to say "hi".  The one parent I know with a kid Erica's age is a boy who prefers boys (he's older and the sex discrimination thing is starting).

Any tips and tricks from the peanut gallery?

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LadyisRed's picture
Submitted by LadyisRed on Mon, 12/07/2009 - 22:20
We dont do friend parties until they are four, simply because Its a lot of effort for a kid that doesnt care that much lol. I would just do family and save the party for next year.
alabama_old_fart's picture
Submitted by alabama_old_fart on Mon, 12/07/2009 - 23:58
Trust me, this isn't a bad problem to have. When they hit 17 you know all the parents but none of the friends. By the way, talk to Phreak (Terry), he's way too into MW2, already has almost 6 days in the game.
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Submitted by pearly_54 on Tue, 12/08/2009 - 06:07
Lady is right. And, I would like to add, that if she isn't interested in other kids, then who is the party really for? Have some family over, blow up some balloons and hang some crepe paper, bake a cake and let her blow out the candles. She can open her own presents. It wiil be so much fun for all, you'll get great pics, and everyone is happy.
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Submitted by williamadamsesq on Tue, 12/08/2009 - 06:49
drive this to daycare: http://themgknproject.files.wordpress.com/2009/01/creepy-van2.jpg
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Submitted by TheBookNerd on Tue, 12/08/2009 - 08:25
We have twin boys who are five. Jack is the extrovert who loves people and wants to be sociable all the time But Owen is like me: introspective, solitary, wants to be left alone. He doesn't have problems or anything. He just likes playing by himself. So what gets him most excited is when I make time just for him and let him pick what we do or where we go. He usually picks something like a movie or the bookstore or library, somewhere that he can be on his own (with parental supervision, of course) for a while. Maybe let her pick something she'd like to do or somewhere she'd like to go? It might be fun to see what she chooses. -Book
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Submitted by PowerMacAttack on Tue, 12/08/2009 - 09:03
J-Cat, to get in touch with the parents of the other kids, just give the Daycare a note from you to the other parent(s) with your number and a brief little blurb about how the kids get along and maybe they would be interested in a playdate sometime. Very easy and no pressure. If a parent calls then you have a winner. And I agree, 3 may be too young for a kids party...keep it to family and friends for now.
happ's picture
Submitted by happ on Tue, 12/08/2009 - 10:50
Agree with the others. It's Erica's party. If she's not comfortable around the daycare kiddos, then don't bother. It's more headache than it's worth and she won't remember it, anyhow. Let her ask you if she can invite someone, that's when you can start letting friends come to birthdays.
Fish66's picture
Submitted by Fish66 on Tue, 12/08/2009 - 11:04
I agree with the general views given. She is a little young and hasn’t developed a lot of strong ties yet. It will probably change and you’ll have lots of parties to host through the years to come. As far as meeting the parents try Face to face if possible. Come early and hang out for a little while. I met most parents waiting around for my kids to get out of school.
Lbsutke's picture
Submitted by Lbsutke on Tue, 12/08/2009 - 12:58
my twins are going to be 3 in March, and could really careless who is at there Bday part...Just have one with the family and not sweat it. Good to here things are well.
pyro13g's picture
Submitted by pyro13g on Wed, 12/09/2009 - 11:47
Ask Erica what she wants to do!

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