Nightmare on the X's Street

Ok blogs are more personal than forums,right? Ok, well heres some personal crap that reflects my easygoing, softhearted foolish demeanor.......your welcome turn back cuz I dont know how BIG this thing might get! lol

If you continue on you will probably want to slide your golf cleets on and shoe me in the sack(several times). This blog is a small recap of the last 24 hours events(and then some) that I can vent (cuz its my blog) and probably look back on several times down da road.

Things just hit me driving back from my X's after attempting to repair the frozen pipes at her house. Well when your teenage son (stepson but like my own) leaves the garage open overnite the water softner pipes tend to freeze.

Thats what I assumed so headed out there with some $38 pipe wrap heater stuff and a small electric heater to unthaw as I worked on it. Ya it worked and showed there is a split shutoff as itstarted to unthaw, so we unburied the meter and shut the water off.

I recommended a plumber to be called for several reasons: 1) its an inconvenience for me to drive another 70mi round trip. 2) Its plasticpipe with brass shutoffs and copper blended in,all with frozen water in them( and I dont know what the hell I'm doin) 3) when we were dating but broken up I replaced a throttle cable on her vehicle and it quitrunning that weekend, she called me to come tow her cuz I screwed it up! (drove 30 mi there, outa gas) :) So if it leaked a drop or anything, guess what - ya my fault.

And of course she doesnt have the money for a plumber and she is going to contact the Bishop at the Church to see if they can help (but of course she would like me to help pay).

Well this is where I backup.......6 weeks ago she told me she was done with dating for at least a year, focusing on the Family and finishing her real estate liscense (working on it for 3 yrs) all she has to do is study and take the test.-She can do awesome at this type work,I know it! Ok yesterday she tells me she getting married on Feb. 4th-OUCH! Ok been together for 10 years, divorced since May and this is her 3rd serious relationship (that I know of) and she's getting married........OUCH-OUCH!

Wow I really feel good about myself! It will be a good thing though, when I left (not my choice) everything was current financially. I let her have all the stuff she wanted and walked away.

She overestimated my income, asked for alimony and I agreed to all this plus I have been paying monthly for: 1) water softner(ironic I know) $46 2)life insurance $35 3) auto ins. for her and stepson $200 (17 yr olds are expensive) 4) plus $542 ea. month that is to help with child care and health ins. Besides all this there is usually something that comes up that I help with.

 One month I sold a valve seat cutter setup, did some side work and gave her $700 cuza some financial woes. Hmmm.....next weekend she rondevoued with an old classmate in Vegas for some good times(male of course), I have several examples-not quite that extreme though. Since the divorce she let the health ins. lapse, let the home get 4 months behind and go into default (step before forclosure) and the child care get $1150 behind.

 GRRRRRRRRRRRR!!!!!!!! Gave the lady $200 yesterday towards it, now the X is like:ok well you can put the alimony towards that since you dont have to pay that once I'm married. So since I made a goodwill gesture financially and even though I already pay to help in this area........she wants me to keep on,eh?

 Well her new flame has some dough it seems, he came through last Tues with money to save the home from the clenching jaws of foreclosure, he's going to hire her for one of his businesses(she can work from home, No day care!) and he has a nice home that the Family will move to (teens arent real thrilled) and not have to worry about the water or power being shut off again.(oh ya that happened too) So I'm trying to put things into a positive perspective, not real happy about so many events here

. The last 3 months have just beat me down. Its sucks when you give everything youve got,and your Family still struggles/suffers-it sucks. This will be better, and I will have about $900 more per month! WOOT! WOOT!

That will be nice, and the kids will be much closer to where I live. :) These are the things I'm holding onto, and the fact I have equity in the home that was allowed for at the divorce and will be reconfirmed in the realty quit claim crappola. It will be enough to start a small school fund for the girls and take care of some stuff.

Oh Yeah! The events over the last months just keep turnin in my head but........enough said.

Thanks for those that made it this far, I appreciate you listening to my whining.

Thank you to this site and a new hobby that has filled my time and channeled my energies.

Thanks 2o2p west and NoD- you people are awesome!

THANKS :)

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