holidays, so confusing

pearly_54

Shared on Wed, 12/09/2009 - 06:39

Gahhhhh!  The holidays.  Especially this year.  I have invitations to too many places, now that I have a new friend.  He is Italian, so family is important to him.  Am I ready to meet the family?  Dunno.  But, it will be an interesting couple of weeks, to say the least.

I am still uncertain, but it is looking like a divorce is the only answer.  It is so complicated, I didn't want to do that.  There are so many people involved.  I'll have to change my will.  I have to anyways.  Sell the house?  Prolly.  Divide up our "stuff".  That seems sorta sad.  But, I guess it has to be done.  Nothing has changed for many years as far as what we own together.  The only things I can really call "mine" are the furniture and appliances, etc. that I bought to furnish my loft.  That is not considered marital property cuz we were already separated.  Other than that, it all goes in a big pile to be sorted out.  Blah.  I may not be ready for this, after all.  After the holidays?  I think so.

So, it will likely be Christmas Eve in my little loft with my daughter's family, my gsons.  And my 'friend'.  That's only 6 people.  My table seats 6 with the leaf in place, but I only have 2 chairs!!!!  lol  Who thought I would need any more than that?  Hmmm, folding chairs.  Christmas day in Virginia.  Williamsburg, nice.....  Christmas Eve, not sure, here or there?  I'm so confused!  At least my car will be fixed.  It's going in the shop Monday.  w00t!

Life is good!  Even if it is the holiday season....

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pearly_54's picture
Submitted by pearly_54 on Thu, 12/10/2009 - 05:32
Sweet, Icey! I certainly would if I could!
Fish66's picture
Submitted by Fish66 on Thu, 12/10/2009 - 08:07
All of the Holidays and Events will be difficult, but not imposable. My advice is not to avoid too much when it comes to family. Only the details should change. If YOU have decided this is what's best then Divorce will be the best in the long run. Yes it is depressing and can be complicated, but not nearly as bad as staying married but not being married. Durty is right, a traditional Italian family is fun and the food may be unbelievable.
Banshee3's picture
Submitted by Banshee3 on Mon, 12/14/2009 - 12:53
Hey Penni.. Just poking my head up out of the sand today and I had to read through oodles of your blogs to catch up. YOu've been a busy girl! Pictures soon! Scarlett is now 7 weeks old and looks so much like me right now. I don't see you on live much, and I'm guessing the WoW has got you hooked for now. Keep truckin.
Durty's picture
Submitted by Durty on Wed, 12/09/2009 - 15:28
Italian families are the bomb :wink: so you'll have a blast. Everyone is usually laughing, loud, and boisterous...so much fun. :)
XSIce's picture
Submitted by XSIce on Wed, 12/09/2009 - 16:51
Just forget the family drama and come see me and Smoke lol. We'll have a nice turkey meal ready for ya :)
Saithme's picture
Submitted by Saithme on Fri, 12/11/2009 - 07:34
Divorce is a hassle. I've been there. But it is also a protection. A friend of a friend had a "long-term separation", like 20 years, living in two states a thousand miles apart. The ex-husband and his common law wife were on the verge of being arrested on some real estate scam he set up and my friend's friend might have been liable for some of the debt if the guy had not been in bad health and died before they could build a case against him. Not that your ex would be involved in a scam, but you have to think about some possible future debt issue and stuff like that.

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