Sexual Abuse

I have been told by a very dear friend to "stop stressing", and I am almost there. This is a brief summary of an event that has caused a bit of a ripple effect. To put it simply, I was verbally sexually abused while playing a game with someone I knew, but not a fellow clannie. I am captain of a very large clan, and know all of their names, so this guy is definitely not in my clan. But, I know who he is, how to find him, and where he lives. That being said, I really didn't handle things very well while it was happening. We were on ventrilo, so what he was saying to me, and I to him, was live. I lost my temper and said some not so ladylike things, which just seemed to egg him on. My mistake! I got out of there as soon as I could. I hung around the house in a vile mood for a day or so, then finally told my husband what happened. He offered to put out a hit on him. Ack! Another friend offered to shoot out his knees. Hmmm, I feel very supported. But, of course, that is not the answer.

For me, writing is cathartic. So, I started writing. I sent an email to a friend, really just asking for his support, which I got. I wrote a long entry in my log, you know, the one no one ever sees! And I did some research, read some articles, and wrote and posted our new clan member etiquette. Included in those "rules" was the topic of racial or sexual comments. I know, it is ok for friends to kid around and make certain comments that are considered acceptable between them. But, when someone steps over the line, it is not acceptable. He stepped over the line.

So, the ripple effect? Not a big ripple, but this event has gone from a bad experience to good. The few people I have told about this are very supportive, even to the point of going after the guy. NOT! I got to do some research and writing. And I am reassured of the luv and respect of my friends. Life is Good!

Note: You guys/gals that think you are just "kidding around" while making sexual comments/jokes might consider how traumatic that could be for the person it is being directed at. You don't know their history or what might happen as a result of your actions. Just think before you speak.  Please.