Got an Idea

 Well, I got an idea how to help my housemate. She's going to go ahead and stay at this rent free place looking after it for her ex-sister-in-law. The place is 3 bedrooms and she is in the process of starting a new job. I've had an idea about how to help her get her kid back and it involves the kid's dad and her and my cousin who has agreed to help if they agree. BUT - as I write this, she's called and chewed me out for texting the kid's dad 'behind her back' about wanting to talk to both of them this weekend. She says it feels to her like I'm trying to control their relationship and that is NOT what I'm trying to do at all. I'm trying to help her get her kid back from her folks who've told her if she is together with the kid's dad, she won't get her kid back. The kid's dad I've known almost as long as I've known her, and he was the best relationship she's had. I told her I don't know why she left her kid with her parents because she'd had another child before this one, and he didn't even make 4 years old because he died at another relatives house under their care and so yeah, I wouldn't trust them to look after my child. I would have left my child with a friend of mine or something like that. 

Well, she just called again. I doubt that she's going to do this, or see the situation like I do being an outsider. She still says it feels like I'm trying to control her relationship with the kid's dad. She also brought up that her ex is the only person her dad likes and would be happy with her being with. I've talked about her ex here before so I won't go into that, but I told her I wasn't talking about her going back to that at all, I was talking about a nonexclusive 'relationship' ie take photos for her folks to see, dinner, coffee whatever to use as a smoke screen with her folks so that she and her kid's dad can then do whatever. And that my cousin, who is someone I know and trust so I don't have to worry about her, is willing to help if she wants him to, since he's in a similar situation. I told her I'd wanted to talk to her and her kid's dad about it because her kid's dad has wanted to try again with them being exclusive, but if her folks find out about that, they'll keep her kid from her.

Oi!!! *sigh* Well, I'll likely not talk to them about it this weekend afterall, but if she comes whining to me about something like this again, she can talk to the hand because I've tried to help and she doesn't take my advice so if she does, she'll get a cold shoulder and an 'I told you so' and 'don't come to me if you don't want to take my advice' and she'll learn that I won't be her for her forever. If she does something stupid in this situation its her own fault and it'll be my last straw because I want her to be able to get her kid here because I've never met him. Will see if her kid's dad texts me back sometime today and I may just talk to him about it anyway as far as what I've already told her. Then she can bitch, but not until then. Perhaps if I talk to the kid's dad later, I can assure him I'm not trying to control their relationship, but that I'm just trying to help them with the situation with their kid.