Meltdowns...

30s are going awesome for me. At 30 I felt like an adult for the first time. Relax. Enjoy the ride. You have your head on straight.

T...don't stress, 30 is not a big deal. You can still physically/mentally do anything you want (even lick chicks). I, on the other hand, am on my way to buy a Vette and to hang out on my old college campus. Weiner out.

I don't have any real personal friends (excluding peeps on this site), except the few that have been with me through some rough spots.\r \r Everyone else has either pushed away or have turned out to be the kind of people I don't want as friends or want to associate with. Nothing personal against them. they are just doing things I dont agree with and I choose not to participate or allow their choices to affect me.\r \r Maybe its time to take a break socially and re-evaluate what you want out of friendships and what you really can expect out of people and what you can expect from yourself.\r \r Don't bend. You sound like you've done that enough and you need a break. Just chillax and exist for a little while. Enjoy the time with your family because ultimately they are the ones who are blood.\r \r Maybe I'm just cynical. I dunno.

So um your friend, you gonna hook me up with her then?

Pics or it didn't happen

well the good news is, you dont look 30, i thought you we in your early 20's when i met you last yr and you looked the same this yr. so you definitely look younger then your age!\r

dammit! Big0ne beat me to it!

In your 30s is when your body pays you back for all the stupid shit you did in your teens and twentys. \r \r On the flip side, you gain wisdom in your 30's. You've experienced a good amount of life and are worthy of now dispensing advise to people younger than you :lol:\r \r Anyway it's just a number it doesn't mean shit. Just go party and have fun, but don't drink too much. Your body stops processing alcohol efficiently in your 30's :)

LOL, Go Dean!!!\r \r There's nothing wrong with the thirties, it's your friends. And there's nothing wrong with a fish taco. :)

Gatsu - you hit on one my issues. How much do you bend on the company you keep versus risking being a loner with no circle of friends? My circle has diminished dramatically in the last 10 years for a variety of reasons - some organic, some not. \r \r And I don't like making new friends! I don't do it very well. \r \r Family....They're fucked too. My sister constantly posts on facebook how sexually frustrated she is. I honestly feel surrounded by crazy fucks like 24/7 and it makes me wonder if I'm the common denominator. \r \r @Midnighter - for sure! lol. \r \r

I was talking with a good friend last night on the phone. We've known each other since college. We were wishing to be 30 again. 30 has been set as the big three-oh by everyone younger than 30. Trust me, 30 to 36 is when your brain has all the experience and confidence and your body can make it happen. You're just a newb in your 20s.\r \r As you get older you will find you have fewer friends but you like them better. Real friends take a while to grow.

as a person who had his mid-life crisis at 19 (sports car and all) I can tell you its just a number....you're hot, and no goofy number is going to change that....as for your friends, take picutures and blackmail them when they get over it.

On a serious note, it seems like there is a common connection amongst your friends and family and it seems to be Sex. Your friend munching on some carpet at a BBQ, your other friend cheating on her hubby and your sis being sexually frustrated. \r \r As a man married to a woman in her 30's, I can tell you one thing for sure: The sexual appetite of a 30's woman is not something to be messed with. Maybe your friends, sis are finally hitting their peak and acting the way all guys act in their teens. Not necc. a bad thing as long as they have a healthy avenue to release all that energy. Something else Dean can look forward to. lol

Your friends were fucked up when you were 20. You’re just mature enuf at 30 to finally recognize it. Most of them will still be fucked up when you turn 40. BFD. Friends provide a significant amount of entertainment. You should let them from time to time.\r \r My wife is similar to J-Cat. She says she finally felt like a big girl when she broke 30. We were in our late 20’s before we married, got a house, had adult jobs, and started planning a family. She spent most of her 20’s figuring out who she should be. At 30 she finally knew.\r \r 30 is a great age. Don’t sweat it.\r

Lesbo's are hot. Book a threesome and have fun with it.\r \r 30 is code for awesome...I'm looking forward to being 40 and when I can finally really be a \"dirty old man\".

@midnighter - Sex certainly connects that dots on a shallow level - but that's not at the core of the issue. \r \r My problem with my sis on facebook is her choice of discretion. Her coworkers are on FB for fuck's sake! First thing I did after the LAN was create a coworker group so my peers wouldn't see me trashed! lol. \r \r My problem with my best friend is that she has been lying to me when I've spent significant time lending an ear to all her anxieties only to find out the truth later. Am I a friend or not?\r \r My problem with the carpet munching is that she's married to a douchebag and I don't believe she's behaving that way out of sexual liberation and choice, but because she's got a tool of a husband that likes to use her as entertainment for him and his friends and she lacks self-respect. \r \r Eh, just venting anyway...

OK FUCK this SHIT tara. FIRST off Im personally offended at your \"description\" OF MEEEEE! :)\r \r I love being 33. Embrace it .. Own it... TERRORIZE little children.... DRIVE that mini bus better than any one else!! ..\r \r Tara You are who you are at ANY age...AGE does not Define your personality YOU do!. Hate to sound so cliche but really other than celebrating the day when your momma pushed you out... what is it. NOT MUCH...! DRINK up the coffee.... and given em HELL! \r \r OH and car pool Starts soon lol

@nae... we need... no DEMAND more carpool stories this year.\r \r @Tara: 30s are weird in that, yeah... you (and your friends) start to ... drift apart a bit. Whatever it is: kids, marriage, career... whatever priorities change, friendships change. It is part of the whole thing called \"life\"\r \r I also think you have come to the terrifying conclusion that not everyone has their shit together. It's sad, but true!

30 isnt as bad as i thought it was going to be. and i dont feel like a kid anymore. \r \r 31 sucked though. maybe it had something to do with losing my job because of cutbacks and my truck shitting the bed. \r \r but i really dont feel any different being in my thrities then i did in my twenties. other then sometimes waking up with my knee all messed up because i had it sitting weird all night.

Nae - I'm never fucking driving a minivan. NEVER. I was sitting at a red light leaving the gym two days ago and I watched suburban mom after sububan mom peel around the corner in minivans and I got scared thinking I could be one of them someday. It was like a fucking sitcom. \r \r And I'll tell you what's really fucking with my head online/or in PM some night even more than my crazy friends...But I'm not blogging about it! \r \r And coffee tastes like shit!\r \r Onto the carpool subject though. Can I make you a mixtape to play?

oh yeah, and with the chick \"friend\", she likes the attention. im just glad that its still not the hip thing for dudes to do. THAT would be fucking weird.

Lol ohhh yes... My car pool week is the 21st of Sept I need it by them.. JUST one request.. SMACK MY BITCH UP lol I really can not wait. We have a new one this year I wonder if she was \"warned\" yet. \r Tara you make a great \"adult\" now suck it and lets play~

I had a meltdown when I turned 30. For a few months my life was hell. Then I got over it. \r \r As far as your friend, maybe she needs to feel like she's still young. Maybe getting older has made her feel unattractive and needs to be wanted by guys. Either that or she just likes the taste of vag.

Wow! You're only thirty?\r \r I had you pegged as much older.

T. It is not how many friends you have, it is the quality of friend(s) you have.\r \r If you BF, is telling you lies, then you need to call her/him on it and let them know that is not cool. If she/he continues to do it, then they are an acquaintance, not a friend. \r \r Don't sweat not have a big circle of people, if you force it and really

ooops, sorry did not finish my thought.\r \r If you force friends, then it is not really truly a friendship.\r \r Take Dean's advice, invite that Friend over, have some cocktails, and tap dat ass.

OLD BAG !!!

Tara, I too find it hard to make new friends and all mine dropped me after I got married. I've only made new ones through work and xbox. I remember 30, was stronger and faster and felt better than I did at 20, just couldn't drink as much. Why am I trying to make you feel better, when I turn 43 this year!!! Man up

Its amazing, you put Kittenmag in your blog entry and you get over 25 responses....thats scary.

I heard somewhere that men are in their prime when they are about 19, and women are in their prime at about 36. So, cheer up Tara, you have a lot of hotness ahead of you. Poor Dean.

WAIT A MINUTE: if you are going all KM in this blog: I demand pics of yourself putting together flat furiture in a strappy tank.

I've loved my 30's. I have fewer friends than I did in my twenties, but they are much closer. Now that I'm almost 39, I can look back on my 30's as the decade that I got my crap together, got married, and started a family. \r Nothing to be afraid of T, and certainly nothing to freak about. You'll be just fine.

I just 30 myself in May. Its not so bad. At least your hair isn't going to fall out :-(