R.I.P. Fleetwood

wilderz

Shared on Thu, 08/02/2007 - 09:30

On Monday my wife and I had to put one of our dogs down. Fleetwood, a fox hound was rescued by us 5 years ago from someone that was going to have to put him in a shelter due to a move. We took him into our home and warmed up to him immediately. He was one of the most well-behaved dogs I've ever had.

When my wife and I got home on Monday, we found that he would not use his hind legs at all. So we took him to an emergency clinic where we found that he had a herniated disc in is back. Our option was a surgery that ran from 3k-6k, with a less than 50% chance he would have the same quality of life ever again. It was the hardest decision I've ever faced, but in the end was probably the most humane.

The worst part is that Lola, our other dog ( 16 month old English bull-dog) is in a depression. She hasn't eaten much, played a lot, or has an interest in going outside. She has always been around dogs, and is not used to being alone. She went from being in a litter of six to coming home with us and being with Fleetwood. I feel so sad for her it kills me. My wife spoke to the breeder that we got our dog from stating that she was concerned about Lola's mental well-being. The breeder said she had a bull dog  that was just a month older than Lola, and hasn't been able to sell her. She asked us if we wanted her, and we both said we couldn't afford the 2000.00 it would cost to get her (we got a great deal on Lola). She said that we could have her free of charge.

So, my dilema is:

Do I honor Fleetwood's memory and not get a dog right away and allow myself the grieving process or:

Get the dog to ensure that Lola has a playmate and a companion.

 

Comments

ekattan's picture
Submitted by ekattan on Thu, 08/02/2007 - 09:33
That is so sad, I' so sorry. I can't imagine what i would do if I had to put my dog down. Really sorry.
Baine's picture
Submitted by Baine on Thu, 08/02/2007 - 09:36
You need to get a new dog soon. My family has always had at least two dogs at any given time. The effects the death of one animal has on another are profound and lasting. The memory will never be betrayed if you get another dog for that reason. It is the most kind thing you can do for the other pet. Trust me on this, we have gotten dog after dog due to the death of another. Sometimes you have to put your own feelings of guilt aside and think of the other pet. Loving a new pet, doesn't decrease the love you had for the one that died.
madwoman's picture
Submitted by madwoman on Fri, 08/03/2007 - 15:23
Wow, I have a black lab, who sometimes drives me nuts but is still our baby nonetheless. Sorry to hear about this. As for getting another. Do what YOU feel is right. Do you want the responsiblity of a new puppy right now during this time of grieving? Would it help or hurt you guys? For everyone it is different. My grandparents always had two dogs at any given time. One passed one, they got another. When they were ailing and couldn't take of themselves let along dogs, one of them passed away suddenly. The other dog went into deep depression for awhile but slowly came out of it.
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Submitted by Lbsutke on Thu, 08/02/2007 - 10:09
is there a limited time frame for getting the deal on the other dog? If not, take a little time to grieve. If there is, then you are going to have to take the deal. Fleetwood (all dogs) are happiest when we are happy. And by getting the other dog you would make Lola feel better, and in turn you would feel better about not worrying about Lola. I have an english bull, and know exactly what you are talking about. Our first english bull died as a puppy (8months) while having surgery to repair a bone is his front leg. It was absolutely devistating. Hang in there man. You will do the right thing.
wilderz's picture
Submitted by wilderz on Thu, 08/02/2007 - 10:30
Thanks for the advice and sympathies. My wife should be hearing from the breeder today. Hopefully we will be able to arrange for an introduction with Lola.
JeepChick's picture
Submitted by JeepChick on Mon, 08/06/2007 - 08:43
BE CAREFUL. If Lola was really really attached to Fleetwood - it could turn out badly to get a "replacement". Similar thing happened to us a few years ago. I immediately went to the shelter and picked up very well behaved Jack Russell to "replace" Johney. Well, Scully our other Jack Russell flipped out. The worst happened. It broke my heart because they seemed fine when we were around them, but the first chance Scully had to attack him she did. I found him when I returned from work. He died in my arms on the way to the Vet. So just make sure the Lola gets to meet the new dog and make doubley sure that she is okay with that. It should help that they were litter mates.

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