Pussification of American Men

Over the past years, I've read more than a few posts which have popped up on various forums I'm a member of -- including this one.  The topic?  Marital/relationship issues, primarily the imbalance between the sexes.  Many guys were reporting their gal would nail them to the cross when she had an "issue" while she wouldn't give the time of day for his.  If he complained, he was being grouchy or whiny.  If she complained, it was a genuine issue that demanded 100% attention and support.  Anything less, and he is an uncaring asshole.

This prompted me, in various posts over the past few years, and in various tones depending on my mood, to respond with the way I'm seeing things.  You see, to me it's a trend.  Men are turning into big, gaping, steaming VAGINAS.  You heard me, men are turning into pussies.  Listen all around us, and it would seem the only words that should ever come out of the modern American male's mouth are "I'm sorry", "you're right", or perhaps "here's another expensive shiny gift for you."  That is all well and good, provided those aren't the ONLY words.  Men, you have nuts.  Use 'em.

The following paragraphs are copied from a lengthy diatribe I wrote up in response to a thread.  The general flow included posts about much of the same.  A few generalizations were thrown around, people started getting upset and edgy, so I went straight off the deep end with my response I guess...  Anyway.... here it is for the rest of the world's enjoyment.

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I'll make no apologies -- stereotypes exist because a large portion of the subject group exhibit a certain characteristic. Yes, women in general have some pretty odd and frustrating traits. I'm sure they feel the same way about guys though, as a generalization.

I've dated my fair share of women who pulled the same shit -- balking when I got home from work 15 minutes late, looking at other women, hanging out with my friends, hobbies, etc. Fuck that - left 'em on the curb. Life is too short to spend with a partner who tears you down. Your significant other is supposed to support you and build you up. Unfortunately, most women seem to feel it's a one way street. Ladies, if you (singly) are different, don't get upset and fight for the plight of women. It's a lost cause. Instead, relish and be proud that you are NOT the typical insecure, self-centered, self-serving, egocentric, "empowered" women of this era. Call me old fashioned, but I feel there needs to be a balance of power in the home. The husband and wife are equally vital to the family unit. Problem is, today's women honestly believe they can do it all, or worse feel the man is more a burden than a partner.

I'm not saying ALL women either, but I can comfortably say a **LOT** of women. I've had the unfortunate experience to try and form meaningful relationships with 'em. I tried my best to work it out with each and every one of them, spending a LOT more time than I should have. EVERY relationship has problems, it's how you (plural, meaning both the man and woman) work through them that shows the strength of your bond. There's a reason your SO is referred to as a "partner." If the relationship is one sided, it WILL ultimately fail.

Some people just need a kick in the head to get them to see another point of view. I was one of those people. When I was younger, I was in a relationship where it was one sided, and I was the jerk. The girl I dated catered to my every whim, and I became a jerk as a result. It's the dictator syndrome -- I was the king, the absolute ruler over my domain. Everything I said, became law. As such, I got drunk with power and was unwilling to hear anything beyond what was in my head. I *FIRMLY* believe this is what is happening to relationships in this day and age. Women are demanding things from their men, and we by NATURE want to do anything and everything in our power to provide for our loved ones. It's how we're built. The problem is, our women got too used to it, and it quite literally went to their heads. Snowball effect. They're the queens and princesses of their domains, and we have become their servants rather than their kings. If we step out of line, they're up our ass faster than you can blink. If we have an issue or problem, it's no care of the queen.

How to fix it? Well, again these are stereotypes I'm speaking of. They may or may not relate to YOUR family and your situation. But, as a whole, I think we need to bring back the balance. A woman doesn't REALLY want a guy who lays at her feet. She wants a strong man, physically and emotionally. She wants a guy who will stand up to her, for himself, and most importantly for her family. If she feels she is in any way stronger than her husband she will resent it, assume the role, and that's the end of it. Guys, don't be afraid to say NO to your wife. Be a little LESS understanding, especially if the demands are a little "out there." Stand your ground. If she's upset and pissed, decide if it's worth debate. If it's a legitimate issue, be open and discuss. If it's a power struggle, just put your f'king foot down. There's a reason it's called "the MAN of the house." Once your wife realizes she doesn't have to do your job in the family as well as hers, things will improve.

Oh another thing -- your wifes still need to be treated like a woman. BUT she won't WANT to feel "womanly" when she's having to take on a man's role. Maybe not the perfect example, but when I met my lovely gal, she was the strong independent type. She was a single mom, fresh out of a few rocky relationships, and fully believing the whole family thing was going to have her as the figurehead. It was a bit of a struggle over the years, over LOTS of things. I would come home, and she'd be on the computer chatting with someone. I'd notice it was a guy's name. I'd ask "hey, who's that?" being genuinely interested (I'm not a psycho jealous guy by ANY stretch of the imagination). She would close the chat window, and get on my case about sticking my nose in her business. Sorry, that shit don't fly under my roof. I jumped her ass HARD about if she doesn't feel comfortable telling me who she's talking to, she's either fucking up and needs to leave, or needs to realize I'm just interested and could give a shit if she's talking to other people as long as I know where her heart is. It took a few times, and there was some yelling, but I never backed down. Why would I, I was speaking on what I believed in, and I knew I was being just and moral. After a few times, she finally told me little bits here and there. When I responded with interest rather than criticism, she started to open up. Now, it's a complete non-issue. I can talk to any woman I want, she can talk to any guy she wants, and we both feel secure because we don't feel there's anything we can't ask from each other.

Okay, I've started rambling, but it all comes down to the pussification of American men ... This trend has to reverse, or man kind is doomed...