How do I title this?

Devonsangel

Shared on Tue, 07/10/2007 - 10:59
A friend of ours (Dastards and mine) is going in to have surgery on his rotator cuff (shoulder) and neither of his kids are here.  I realize that this isn't a major situation, but he thinks that he should just be shuttled to the hospital and dropped off.  I disagree.  Although his isn't a relation, he and his family have been a huge part of our lives.  He took Dastard in right after he was served divorce papers, he and his wife supported me when I had my mare and then lost her, his wife taught the oldest riding lessons long time ago, and so on.  Last year his wife, Anne, passed away unexpectedly.  Although she had been in poor health for quite a while, the last visit to the hospital was too much.  That was a year ago almost to the day.  I have been helping each Sunday to clean stalls since then and Dastard and I have tried to be there for Don.  The boys both live at least 8 hours away by car so I know it really isn't feasible for them to be here during the week.

So, I have told Don that I will be accompanying him to the hospital and staying.  In fact, I told him that when he is released tomorrow, I will be staying over night to make sure he doesn't have any trouble.  I admit, I'm a little paranoid.  My aunt had a similar surgery not that long ago and the first night home she almost OD on the oxycodone they gave her for the pain.  She lost track of how much she had taken.  If not for her son checking on her, we would have lost her for sure.  The paramedics asked him if she had a DNR that night.  Luckily she is slowly gaining ground even though it really took a lot out of her.  (The surgery and the OD)  I don't want to see Don go through that.

I am off to pick up my patient.

Would you rather
Spend three weeks in a lifeboat with a person who talks incessantly about his or her medical problems
OR
with someone who has a chronic wet, hacking cough?

Keep on Go!

Comments

Devonsangel's picture
Submitted by Devonsangel on Tue, 07/10/2007 - 16:34
Thanks all. Don is out of surgery and I will be checking up on him in the hospital later. Dr. said it went well. We shall see how he feels tomorrow.
microscent's picture
Submitted by microscent on Tue, 07/10/2007 - 22:19
I would title it: Yes I have common sense. I think you're doing the right thing.
GroovyElm's picture
Submitted by GroovyElm on Wed, 07/11/2007 - 08:17
I really respect your dedication to your friend. It speaks very highly of you.
TexasTwister55's picture
Submitted by TexasTwister55 on Wed, 07/11/2007 - 08:30
Third choice; jump over the side and take my chances with the sharks. You are a very kind person. I'm sure your friend will never forget you were there for him.
kevtek17's picture
Submitted by kevtek17 on Tue, 07/10/2007 - 11:06
give me the whiny person, the coughing would make me drown them in their sleep.
Zikan's picture
Submitted by Zikan on Tue, 07/10/2007 - 11:06
Your 'would you rather' is a tie this time. You throw the whiner off the boat and you karate chop the cougher in the throat - both problems easily solved! :)
doorgunnerjgs's picture
Submitted by doorgunnerjgs on Tue, 07/10/2007 - 11:16
The whiny person, you can always threaten them with death to get them to stop (and followup if necessary). Can't force someone to stop coughing, so only death is the answer. Sounds like you've made the right decision about Don. That's what friends are for.
SoupNazzi's picture
Submitted by SoupNazzi on Tue, 07/10/2007 - 11:31
RC surgery is nothing to sneeze at. Although I never had it, my shoulder surgery sucked, and sucked big time. He'll probably be majorly out of it, so it's a smart move sis.
Anonymous's picture
Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on Tue, 07/10/2007 - 11:57
i would come keep you company, but that is a long drive
KingBayman's picture
Submitted by KingBayman on Tue, 07/10/2007 - 12:15
He is definitely going to need some assistance. I had surgery on my rotator cuff in 2001 after a motorcycle accident. I was literally unable to move my arm for 2 weeks after that. His may not be as bad since I had to also have tendons repaired. I still remember taking my wrist out out the arm immobilizer the day after my surgery, my arm just dropped to my side and I couldn't move it. I kind of made me appreciate what it would be like to be paralyzed. I was telling it to move, but it wouldn't budge. Kind of really freaked me out at first.

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