To Ferberize or not to?

th3midnighter

Shared on Tue, 07/22/2008 - 11:18

So our son just turned 7 months a few days ago and me and the wife have decided that its time for him to sleep on his own. He's been sleeping with us for the last 7 months in our bed with a co-sleeper but we'd like to be able to sleep through the night and you know, actually get to sleep together so we are moving him to his spacious crib in his spacious room. So we thought about all the different methods and are going with the Ferber Method. Its named after some Doctor in Boston who after doing years of research and studies found that babies after 4/5 months who have trouble sleeping through the night can be taught to sleep by a system of soothing, quiet bed time and letting them cry it out. We are on night number 2 and let me tell you, hes got a set of lungs. He lasted 34 mins the first night and last night he lasted 49 mins cause I made the mistake of picking him up. We are going to stick to it for a few weeks to see how he responds but once he was able to fall asleep, he stayed asleep for most of the night. My question is this. How many have tried the cry it out method and when did you see a dramatic difference. Also, if you had a baby who wasnt able to sleep through the night and woke up every few hours, what other methods did you use? Who knew parenting was so complicated. I have more respect for my parents with each passing day.

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Submitted by Automan21k on Tue, 07/22/2008 - 12:19
no offense to anyone here....but....AHHAHAHAHAHAH this makes me so glad we decided to not have kids.
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Submitted by Lusetti67 on Tue, 07/22/2008 - 13:09
A thimble of Jack Daniels in the babies bottle before bed. Helps with teething too. A shot or too for yourself will help.
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Submitted by VenomRudman on Tue, 07/22/2008 - 13:17
I remember doing that with my daughter, it was very hard to lie in bed, wanting to get up and rock her to sleep knowing that it is best for her for you not to. I think it took a week or so for it to take hold. I felt sorry for our neighbors as we lived in an apt building at the time :).
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Submitted by supergg2k on Tue, 07/29/2008 - 12:05
With our oldest daughter it took a long time. With our triplets it's more of a challenge. The boys can get themselves to sleep while in their bouncy seats; I usually hold my daughter (which is probably awful because she then will rely on being held to get to sleep). The hard part is letting my younger daughter cry it out. She and her big sister share a room so do I risk having two upset kids instead of one? Try this. Get them in the crib when they're sleepy and read or sing to them. When they get fussy, reassure them without taking the out of the crib. Keep reading or singing until they go to sleep on their own. This is what we did for our oldest. Good luck!
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Submitted by Castlemonster on Tue, 07/22/2008 - 11:21
It took 3 days for my kids to stop crying. Stick with it and next week you won't have a problem. I didn't know it had a name but that is exactly how I weaned both of my kids off being rocked to sleep.
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Submitted by JeepChick on Tue, 07/22/2008 - 11:23
Ferber was great for our first. Only took a few nights. My daughter... months and months. Crying until she puked. Crying until she busted blood vessels in her eyes and face. Crying for 4-5 hours straight, until she couldn't talk or make a sound. Hell. She now goes to sleep by playing Mommy duck with her hands. (Make a duck shape, have the two duck hands talk to each other). She did it herself. It works 100% of the time.
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Submitted by twistedcaboose on Tue, 07/22/2008 - 11:24
I did the let them cry, but Trev never slept with me or in my room. He always had his own bed and room. The let it cry came when he decided he didn't want to sleep anymore, around your sons age. Only took one night and that was it. I have an awesome son from the get go.
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Submitted by corbin_dallas on Tue, 07/22/2008 - 11:24
Yep Let em cry it out. As long as you know the difference in a hey i'm hungry or I got a load in my diaper cry vs i'm just being a fuss and don't want to be alone cry. Yes, there is a differnce and yes you CAN tell 98% of the time. My wife an I had differing opinions on this I was for letting them cry it out she was not. I ended up winning the battle because after about two weeks she noticed that the crying it out method was working. I know it sounds cruel but they won't die or be scarred for life from crying and in the long run it's better for everyone involved. It does take a couple of weeks of hell but it works and you'll be much happier in 2 to 3 weeks. Good Luck and stay calm
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Submitted by KingDrewsky on Tue, 07/22/2008 - 11:27
Both of my boys have been Ferberized. The youngest still cries at bedtime (11 months). Typically he will cry for 5-10 minutes, then boom out for the night. Stick with it. You have got to get the kid out of your bed, or else prepare for years of getting kicked in the head while sleeping everynight.
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Submitted by th3midnighter on Tue, 07/22/2008 - 11:31
Thanks for all the feedback and encouragement. Its easy to feel like a terrible parent when you are going through this. I pride myself in being a very involved Dad and spend as much time with him as I can so to hear him crying and weeping just breaks my heart but honestly, I miss sleeping with my wife on a regular basis and she will be going back to work in January so we gotta get him into a normal night routine by then. I'll keep you guys posted.
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Submitted by Lbsutke on Tue, 07/22/2008 - 11:38
your fucked...nothing works... corbin was on the mark...As long as you know the different cry's then you are golden. my twins were in their cribs from 8 weeks on, but we did the rock them to sleep for a while after that. Took them about 20 minutes to go to sleep then we put them down. But now they just chill in our laps from 7:15 tll about 7:45ish, then we put them in the cribs, kiss them on the dome and leave the room. They fuss for about 5 to 10 minutes. Then they are out.. We can even ask them to turn off the light now, and one of them will walk over and turn off the lights...

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