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Shared on Sat, 11/07/2009 - 05:57

I have avoided Facebook for a loooong time, but a few months ago I finally gave in to it.  I am now connected with most of my family members, quite a few friends, and a cool surprise last night.  I received a friend request out of the blue from England.  Now, I only know a few people in England and the name matched one of them.  I sent him a message "do I know you?" and he sent me one back that was absolutely convincing, so now I am connected to my friend Jon. 

Facebook can be very addicting. I have one friend that enters several times a day with what he eats, who he sees, and whatever else he can come up with.  You know who you are!  I also have a niece that does pretty much the same thing, but it is mostly about her little boy, who is as sweet as can be.  I have been lured into playing quite a few of their silly games.  I have a fish tank, 2 farms, belong to a mafia, and am learning to be a wizard, among others.  There are cute little quizzes you can take, which are really meaningless, but fun.  You can then post what the result was.  Not me!  Mostly it is nonsense.  I did post that I am a good kisser and sexy!  The others?  not.

Another thing about FB is that you use your real name.  Ack!  Friend requests from people I've never heard of take a little investigating.  Usually they turn out to be someone from this site.  Fun finding out who you really are!  Myself, I don't say much, but I enjoy reading others' comments.  I have to be careful what I say cuz my family might get the wrong idea.  lol

So, this is just my thought for today, not a request for yet many more friends.  Altho, if you do the detective work to find out my real name and send a request, I will perhaps honor it.  That's all.  Gotta go check Facebook.

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BasBleu's picture
Submitted by BasBleu on Mon, 10/05/2009 - 06:26
I love this post as I am one who feels Facebook has more negative qualities than positive. There are times in life when we disconnect with people, and most often it is for good reason. There is something unnatural and uncomfortable about reconnecting with those people. I deleted my main facebook account because I was bombarded with old wounds, grievances, and pain. I put a stop to it rather than suffer silently.
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Submitted by dkhodz on Mon, 10/05/2009 - 08:03
Well, facebook isn't a substitute for real-life interaction... that much should be obvious. And I guess it could be used to "hold on loosely" to old ties that maybe should just be severed completely, so in that way it could be damaging. I guess it just depends on the personalities of the people involved and the way they view online interaction. I can't really think of a single "bad" facebook relationship I have right now... plenty of them are vacuous, casual, out-of-date, etc. but none that even border on awkward, damaging, etc. But back to real-life relationships (by which I mean relationships that are regularly nurtured by face-to-face interaction), I no longer spend several days every summer with my first cousins like I did when we were kids. I no longer regularly see all my high school friends (I see some of them as regularly as possible being that we live several hours apart though). I don't think there's anything wrong with that. It's just a reality of growing up and people moving on with their lives. The 7 groomsmen I had in my wedding 12 years ago - 1 guy I've seen once since my wedding, 1 guy is now my ex-brother-in-law (never speak), 2 guys I haven't seen in about 2-5 years, but there are 3 guys I still see 3-5 times per year, meet up for vacations, play cards on weekends, etc. It's just circumstances really that divides us, not personalities or whatever. Of course, I understand sometimes personalities DO divide relationships... just don't have any examples in my life that come to mind readily.
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Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on Mon, 10/05/2009 - 09:12
I'm not a big facebook fan myself although I continue to try, I find it a bit disingenuous. I know it does a lot of people good but it seems to also give people a way of "staying in touch" without doing any of the work of maintaining friendships. The comment i hear most often from facebook fans is "I would never have kept in touch with this person if not for facebook". Well, maybe there's a reason for that. And do you actually consider them your friend or just look at their wall posts and pictures? Are you part of each others' lives.. or do you just read their status when you're bored. I never felt the need to hold onto relationships that had run their course. I kind of like leaving the past right where it is. That can be both positive and negative. I definitely don't think "it's you". I think you are more pensive than most and these things perhaps hit your harder emotionally than some others. Whereas someone else might say "hrm i wonder why Chris and I grew apart" and move on with their day, you'll stop and think about it and feel bad about the loss. When you're in an emotional situation everything seems worse than it is and you start taking tally of all the broken relationships. In reality there are many more solid friendships to focus on. I'm sorry to hear about your Dad. Lemme know if you feel like talking.
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Submitted by SoupNazzi on Mon, 10/05/2009 - 14:49
stop dropping the acid Tait.
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Submitted by meemoos on Sat, 11/07/2009 - 13:33
I already found you :-)
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Submitted by ekattan on Wed, 10/03/2007 - 11:22
I think you have to be part of someones network to view your profile.

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