Finding the time

You just make it happen. If you're married, you both need you time and you both need couple time regardless of how many rugrats are running around. You and your spouse should switch off an hour a day for some alone time. Or if you're single, arrange some play dates. Maybe get a group of you together and rotate around who has the kids for an afternoon on the weekends. Then if you're married or dating with kids, you should try and set one night a week aside as a date night and the two of you hit the town and catch up on adult talk. Hire a baby sitter for the night and get out of the house. Also it's good to try and encourage sleep overs. Kind of goes along with the weekend afternoon play dates, but these can be used for more intimate time with your significant other. Get together with the parents of your kids friends and talk about having rotating sleep overs. Could work.