Pushing People

It's interesting how in life, most people always want "status quo" - basically, real emotions should be skirted so that the peace is kept.  But, what happens when the stuff hits the fan?  Are they really your friends, or do they cut and run?  Will you only find out when the big hurdles come up?

It's interesting to test these theories in less important things in your life.  Go ahead and push on something more minor and see what happens.  Who sticks with you, talks you down, is there as a friend?  Who blasts you and judges you, calling you names?  Who doesn't even try to talk to you but just posts ridiculous accusations and lies and runs away?

Yeah, it's uncomfortable - mostly for other people.  But, it truly shows who those people are.  You don't see their masks for a bit - you see them stripped to their emotional core and get to find out who they really are.  Now, you know who'll be there when you need them.

Too often, I've known people that went through true crisis that carry deep pains because of abondment - people abandoned them during this crisis or reacted in unexpected ways.  They built trust in people based on these masks without knowing what would happen when they needed a true friend, and then paid the price. 

Everyone makes their own choices - most would rather never know and risk that the major crisis of life will miss them, and the theories will remain untested.  A few don't want to take that risk, or have paid too dearly in the past to take it again.  I'm one of the latter - I've paid too dearly for putting my trust in the wrong people before.  Now, I want to know what people are made of - and too often than not, they are not worthy of that trust.  It's amazing if you drop a small grenade, how people react.  And, trust me, people are people - they will react the same way to a nuclear explosion, so it's a darn accurate test.

:-)