The Best Way To Live Life

codemonkey

Shared on Mon, 11/27/2006 - 23:28
For those that have read a prior blog, my grandmother is dying of cancer - we found out on Thanksgiving. Well, she's now comfortable at my fathers house and the entire family was over tonight.

My father lives five minutes down the road, which is nice, and that allowed me to get over there fast. My grandmother asked, today, if everyone was going to come and see her tonight... figuring "she knows" her time is coming close (she was given 3 weeks to live, but it seems like it may be more like measured in hours not days).

Well, we were all there. She wasn't doing so good, only was able to wake up a few times during the night. But we were all there. Here sister, her close family, her three boys (one is my dad of course) all the wives, kids, everyone. My cousin (and best friend when I was little) flew up as well. It was very cool to see everyone together like that, even given the situation.

I'm at home now, but we spent the evening there and got to visit with her. She's got family pictures all around and artifacts from when the boys were kids and all that. Just very cool.

All I know is, if I can be given such a great send off it would be an honor. To have all my family and friends there to say goodbye - how could you possibly ask for more then that, right? Yes, its leukemia and its extremely fatal at her age of 86 but hell, if your going to go you might as well have a bit of a party and be able to have that opportunity with your family. If only everyone had the ability to pre-plan their final days in such a way...

CodeMonkey

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ReBIRTH's picture
Submitted by ReBIRTH on Tue, 11/28/2006 - 05:28
Hey Code, I'm sorry to hear about your Grandmothers situation its very hard to deal with. But, it sounds like she lived a long happy life. She is headed for a better place. My father just pasted on May 21, 05. I still have moments when, I feel like crying, but I know he now has no more pain. And he to is in a better place.
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Submitted by SGreth on Tue, 11/28/2006 - 07:12
Thankfully you all get to say goodbye and she does get the chance to see you all one last time. Now is a great time to reflect & celebrate her life rather than mourn her death which is what I think we all would really want in our final days. I'll never forget at your daughter's 2nd b-day party when my son went up to your grandmother and said "Hi Grandma. She started laughing and had to explain to him that she wasn't *his* grandma.
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Submitted by GroovyElm on Tue, 11/28/2006 - 07:41
I'm very sorry to hear about your Grandmother. It sounds as though she has a wonderful family with her at this difficult time. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
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Submitted by doorgunnerjgs on Tue, 11/28/2006 - 08:20
Sorry to hear about your g'ma. But, as you say, everyone should be so lucky as she, to have had a chance to say goodbye to her loving family. And the rest of your family has had an opportunity to say goodbye in a meaningful and comforting way. I add my thoughts and prayers to you and yours at this stressful time. Peace be with you and yours.

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